I won’t lie. I’m not the easiest person to live with. Why? Because I like things just so. I’m a perfectionist.
It took many years to get Greg to help me around the house (without me asking). Now he’s a peach. If he sees me hustling to get dinner on, he’ll step up and ask what he can do.
His favorite task is loading the dishwasher. The one I’d rather he do is empty the trash, but I digress. 🙂
It’s probably because he’s right handed and I was wired to be left handed, but we ALWAYS do things opposite each other. While folding a sheet, if I’m at one end and he’s at the other, we always fold in the opposite direction of each other. Always.
Oh, sometimes we anticipate the inevitable and we try to fold in the direction we think the other person will go, but you guessed it, we do that at the same time too, and still end up going opposite each other.
But back to loading the dishwasher. He loads it in the exact opposite direction I do. Silverware is nested on top of each other. Knives with knives, spoons with spoons.
I try to remind him not to sort them by type so they won’t nest together. If they nest, some sides may not get washed.
I have stopped telling him which way I like the dishes loaded though. I just move them without saying anything.
You could say it’s obsessive compulsive on my part, but hand-to-heart there really is a purpose to everything I do. There are hundreds of repetitious things I do every day. After that much practice, it’s inevitable that I’d come up with the most efficient way to do them.
I experiment with everything I do, so when I settle on a system, I don’t like it changed. This sometimes leads to arguments between us. He calls me an obsessive border collie. I call him…well, never mind what I call him.
I’m grateful he helps me out. And he does try to do things the way I like. He probably still doesn’t believe that I do things for a specific purpose, but he indulges me anyway.
I’m sure there are a lot of people who don’t put that much thought into how something should be done, but I do. I don’t like to waste time, and Heaven forbid, I have to do something over, so I think about process carefully until I perfect it.
This is especially useful for animals. Animals are truly creatures of habit. It makes feeding, cleaning, and treating a much less stressful event if you go through certain motions every time.
I find it works equally well with husbands. 🙂
Am I the only obsessive-compulsive out there? Do you and your significant other do tasks differently from one another? Will you redo something if someone else did it “not-quite-right”? Are you left handed or right handed?